Well, I am going to take the advice I give and see the positive in September’s arrival. The Fall is such a beautiful season. Weather is less humid, walking outside is more enjoyable, schedules are back and Football returns which means I get back to Fall Dinners like chili and pasta ! Plus in Richmond, we have the best list of Fall Festivals. I am going to embrace it all and go moment by moment with the things that are overwhelming.
Can you believe it is August !?! Are you ready for all things back to school!? I am not. Things are really different in our home, and going to change more. Our oldest moved out, got her own awesome apartment and it is so exciting for her. It her time to shine and leave the nest. Now we prepare for our middle daughter to leave for her Freshman year at college in 3 weeks. I am going from a home of 5 to 3! Although this is all part of life’s cycle, it is hard. I am able to share how I feel and can grab my emotions. I do not know how this will play out for our boy. I tried to write a little about this in a piece in this issue. I say “tried” because, so much is unknown and I am so emotional!
Friends, think of me, send me strength and hugs- this momma needs it!
July’s here! That means Summer is moving way too fast and soon school supplies will be in the aisle’s! Graduation has come and gone in our home. This week, our oldest signed a lease and is moving out a few weeks before our middle daughter heads to college , and our middle daughter started her Summer job after being at College orientation this week. WHAT? HOW? All great stuff, but it is a little overwhelming. Marky started his Summer School Program this week too, so my Summer is very different than in years past. I will have lots of adjusting to do.
June! The start of Summer, planning for day trips, travel, excursions and for me; our senior daughter’s graduation . So many of you have come on this journey with me. I started talking about all of the things that would be the first and the last and they are all happening. Today is her last day of going to High School. Next week, she practices for graduation and then she will walk across the Siegal Center floor and grab her diploma! I am super proud of her. Her HS experience was one that she truly embraced and she gave so much. She was such a safety for our son at school this year, and it will surely be a different experience next year for him without her, but, it will be ok. One more moment of bragging rights, because I think this is a wonderful program through Henrico County Schools- she was awarded a spot to come back and teach when she graduates from college and I am so certain that she will be an educator that brings change and great energy for our babies!
Well, May for me will be the month of the “middle”. Senior Prom is over, Graduation for our middle daughter is next month and May will be the month of reflection and planning. Marky has been asking many questions about the location of his sister’s college, along with other sweet “Markyisms” that are continuing to remind me how difficult this is going to be.
April is always a month that brings smiles and sadness. I love that we have a month to raise awareness and at the same time I dislike that we need to raise awareness. I wish and hope for awareness all the time for all of our babies with special needs. I pray and dream that we all could be embraced for “our best” and not the person next to us.
Happy March! This is always a month that seems to take its time coming and going. Not many school holidays, a weather and time change and the tease of Spring. Although, February surely was a month of anything goes. I kind of felt like February was just like my life- everyday, I wake up and just have no idea what to expect! This picture is from a Saturday morning family workout at Burn Boot Camp, it was a lot of fun!
February, the month we celebrate love. Every month is a great month to celebrate love, but this month we highlight it all. I like to go old school and make gifts, make coupons and make lots of baked goods to give to my family and friends. I love handwritten cards and notes and I love to leave little treats on pillows. I don’t like the commercialism of the month but I love to celebrate love. Try to think about ways you can too.
One word of advice for you this month- ask for what you want. I am serious, please try this. We are such caregivers and the queens of multitasking that our needs always get put on hold and then we get resentful.
Tell your partner what you want. If it is not easy for you, write it down. Here is an example:
“Babe, this week, I would love to have an hour to myself to read and if you could help get that laundry sorted, I would be so grateful , Thanks.”
It may sound silly, but ask for the little things you want. WE DESERVE IT!
I wish you all a happy start to the second month of 2018. I am starting my second book this week too!
A New Year. A perfect time to set goals and plan for a year of what is important to us. This year, my suggestions are to keep it simple, keep it real and keep yourself a priority. If we are not taking care of ourselves, we will have nothing to give to our kids and then our kids will suffer. It’s so common to put their needs first that we often neglect our own.
December has arrived. So many of us struggle in the Holiday season with the increase in activity, visitors, schedules etc. It can be a really tough time. One of the things I have learned in this journey, and truly try to practice, is remembering to say no. I struggled with this for a long time and now understand how important it is, for you and for your family! It doesn’t make you a “bad guy” and you will still be accepted and loved by those that truly matter.