December has arrived. So many of us struggle in the Holiday season with the increase in activity, visitors, schedules etc. It can be a really tough time. One of the things I have learned in this journey, and truly try to practice, is remembering to say no. I struggled with this for a long time and now understand how important it is, for you and for your family! It doesn’t make you a “bad guy” and you will still be accepted and loved by those that truly matter.
November is here. I have already seen Christmas decorations and heard holiday music. My goal for you all and for me is to stay in the moment. Celebrate the Holiday that comes first and requires so much less effort- Thanksgiving. Truly, try to be thankful, stay present and enjoy the moments. Our Pinterest Board has lots to help you plan for Thanksgiving.
I hope the school year is going well so far for everyone. It has been smooth for us. I am pleased with the transition, the communication and he is really working hard with good results. It may not be forever, but it is for now, and I am happy! This picture is from his first Football game, his older sister has truly embraced his HS experience and is including in him as much as she can. I am holding all of it as tightly as I can, it feels so good!
Well, it is here. September. The beginning of all things Fall. Fall is a great time of year and I look forward to so much that the season brings. Fall cooking, apple picking & pies, hikes and watching football on our couch.
I do not transition well to the routine again and the calendar of school, schedules and stuff. I would be lying to you,(and I can’t do that)if I told you I was excited for our son to be starting High School. In fact, we had his orientation this week and although I was really pleased with the efforts and communication of his new school, I had a rough day. His new school did a great job with scheduling, and if it is any indication of the year ahead, we will be AOK. Where I fell short, and “Autism” won, was looking around, watching the joy and excitement of all the others around me. The kids all spoke and planned and shared. Our son was not a part of any of that. No one sought him out, nor did he seek any. No one made any plans to get lunch or ask him his schedule. He didn’t ask either. I felt raw. I wanted to leave and I was struggling. Our son knows KNOWDifferent, if he does, he doesn’t say anything, so, the issue is mine, not his. What do I do? Besides cry to a few close friends and share with all of you here, probably nothing. It just hurts. I don’t write this for pity, but I think many of you will relate and those who are here to learn, well, you will feel the emotions here and that is ok.
I know it will pass and some days are just harder, this was one.
As August arrives, I find myself thinking, “great , we have one more month of Summer” and then thinking, “OH NO, only one more month of Summer!”. I am already feeling the stressors of some of the scheduling and planning of the coming school year. Our son will be starting High School and we know the challenges will be real, but are excited about the new opportunities he will be having. Our daughter will be a Senior and that is incredibly overwhelming for me! So, I choose to focus on the now, create some more memories, have some new adventures and make these last few weeks count!
We will be heading to SC in a few days, it is an annual Summer tradition to visit family and it is one of the prettiest spots we have been to. This picture is from a trail we visited in Charlottesville followed by peach ice cream at Carter’s Mountain!
Can you believe it is July! This picture was taken as we celebrated the end of Middle School at Busch Gardens. He saw some peers taking pics in groups, we weren’t in one, and he said to me, “let’s take a picture mom”. My heart kind of melted. I will hold that forever. Such a simple moment, that so many typical parents would think nothing of, a milestone for me.
May ended for us with our annual Autism 5k with the Autism Society of Central Virginia. This tradition has become one that I really look forward to. It is a day of community support and a place where we all feel connected and a part of something. For many of us, that is not something we have on a daily basis. I am so thankful for all the ASCV brings to us.
It’s already the 5th month of 2017! Has anyone else struggled with remembering the month we are in, wondering if it was December and how the time haas flown by? This picture is from our middle daughter’s junior prom.
This week, I got to spend some time with a friend that I don’t get to see very often. It was a real treat as well as a moment of awareness. My friend Emily, is one of the smartest ladies I know, she is also one of my most blunt friends. There is no room for any misinterpretation with her. When we first met, I was 24, newly married to my first husband and had just started my first “real” job in NYC, post college. She was a colleague and I so admired her skills and sass. For a while, I did not know how to digest her delivery, but fast forward 25 years and I realize how much of a gift it is to have a friend like this. I learned so much from her, and continue to. Thinking back and realizing that at the time I did not even know what it was that she was teaching me, but she gave me so many tools that I now use every day. Tools that would help anyone, but as a parent to a child with Special Needs, these things have given me such strength.
Did you set goals for yourself? Are you reaching them? I think it is a good time to evaluate, check in with ourselves and see where we are at. I have kept my promise to allow the time to exercise. It is making a big difference. My energy is better and I am also feeling stronger mentally & physically. I have fallen short on staying in touch with family & friends and making some girl time, so I want to make that happen. The beauty of goals is that every day is a new chance to make it happen. No need to be negative and feel defeated, deep breath and move forward.