June! The start of Summer, planning for day trips, travel, excursions and for me; our senior daughter’s graduation . So many of you have come on this journey with me. I started talking about all of the things that would be the first and the last and they are all happening. Today is her last day of going to High School. Next week, she practices for graduation and then she will walk across the Siegal Center floor and grab her diploma! I am super proud of her. Her HS experience was one that she truly embraced and she gave so much. She was such a safety for our son at school this year, and it will surely be a different experience next year for him without her, but, it will be ok. One more moment of bragging rights, because I think this is a wonderful program through Henrico County Schools- she was awarded a spot to come back and teach when she graduates from college and I am so certain that she will be an educator that brings change and great energy for our babies!
Well, May for me will be the month of the “middle”. Senior Prom is over, Graduation for our middle daughter is next month and May will be the month of reflection and planning. Marky has been asking many questions about the location of his sister’s college, along with other sweet “Markyisms” that are continuing to remind me how difficult this is going to be.
April is always a month that brings smiles and sadness. I love that we have a month to raise awareness and at the same time I dislike that we need to raise awareness. I wish and hope for awareness all the time for all of our babies with special needs. I pray and dream that we all could be embraced for “our best” and not the person next to us.
Happy March! This is always a month that seems to take its time coming and going. Not many school holidays, a weather and time change and the tease of Spring. Although, February surely was a month of anything goes. I kind of felt like February was just like my life- everyday, I wake up and just have no idea what to expect! This picture is from a Saturday morning family workout at Burn Boot Camp, it was a lot of fun!
February, the month we celebrate love. Every month is a great month to celebrate love, but this month we highlight it all. I like to go old school and make gifts, make coupons and make lots of baked goods to give to my family and friends. I love handwritten cards and notes and I love to leave little treats on pillows. I don’t like the commercialism of the month but I love to celebrate love. Try to think about ways you can too.
One word of advice for you this month- ask for what you want. I am serious, please try this. We are such caregivers and the queens of multitasking that our needs always get put on hold and then we get resentful.
Tell your partner what you want. If it is not easy for you, write it down. Here is an example:
“Babe, this week, I would love to have an hour to myself to read and if you could help get that laundry sorted, I would be so grateful , Thanks.”
It may sound silly, but ask for the little things you want. WE DESERVE IT!
I wish you all a happy start to the second month of 2018. I am starting my second book this week too!
A New Year. A perfect time to set goals and plan for a year of what is important to us. This year, my suggestions are to keep it simple, keep it real and keep yourself a priority. If we are not taking care of ourselves, we will have nothing to give to our kids and then our kids will suffer. It’s so common to put their needs first that we often neglect our own.
December has arrived. So many of us struggle in the Holiday season with the increase in activity, visitors, schedules etc. It can be a really tough time. One of the things I have learned in this journey, and truly try to practice, is remembering to say no. I struggled with this for a long time and now understand how important it is, for you and for your family! It doesn’t make you a “bad guy” and you will still be accepted and loved by those that truly matter.
November is here. I have already seen Christmas decorations and heard holiday music. My goal for you all and for me is to stay in the moment. Celebrate the Holiday that comes first and requires so much less effort- Thanksgiving. Truly, try to be thankful, stay present and enjoy the moments. Our Pinterest Board has lots to help you plan for Thanksgiving.
I hope the school year is going well so far for everyone. It has been smooth for us. I am pleased with the transition, the communication and he is really working hard with good results. It may not be forever, but it is for now, and I am happy! This picture is from his first Football game, his older sister has truly embraced his HS experience and is including in him as much as she can. I am holding all of it as tightly as I can, it feels so good!
Well, it is here. September. The beginning of all things Fall. Fall is a great time of year and I look forward to so much that the season brings. Fall cooking, apple picking & pies, hikes and watching football on our couch.
I do not transition well to the routine again and the calendar of school, schedules and stuff. I would be lying to you,(and I can’t do that)if I told you I was excited for our son to be starting High School. In fact, we had his orientation this week and although I was really pleased with the efforts and communication of his new school, I had a rough day. His new school did a great job with scheduling, and if it is any indication of the year ahead, we will be AOK. Where I fell short, and “Autism” won, was looking around, watching the joy and excitement of all the others around me. The kids all spoke and planned and shared. Our son was not a part of any of that. No one sought him out, nor did he seek any. No one made any plans to get lunch or ask him his schedule. He didn’t ask either. I felt raw. I wanted to leave and I was struggling. Our son knows KNOWDifferent, if he does, he doesn’t say anything, so, the issue is mine, not his. What do I do? Besides cry to a few close friends and share with all of you here, probably nothing. It just hurts. I don’t write this for pity, but I think many of you will relate and those who are here to learn, well, you will feel the emotions here and that is ok.
I know it will pass and some days are just harder, this was one.