Often, my writings focus on the areas I struggle with, or my areas of concern with raising our son who has Autism, Today, I am going to share some of the things I am can celebrate. This does not mean that my concern or worries are gone, just that, in this journey, I also have many moments that make me smile and teach me.
It is important to remember that all of our children, with any diagnosis, have many strengths and teach us every day. Getting that diagnosis is the starting point that helps to determine the path that will best help and then we learn that the path will change regularly.
Marky is turning 17 next week and I want to celebrate gifts he gives me and all that are lucky enough to know him.
Please Note- these “gifts” are all things I am learning, it does not mean I have mastered them nor does it mean that I don’t have setbacks, but I am working hard on applying them and reminding myself of them.
1. I am a better person. I have found inner strength I never knew I had and although I do not always know what to do, I know I will figure it out.
2. I am more patient. I take the time to think about how things may impact him, others and myself .
3. I have a much better perspective . I can see things more clearly.
4. I have found strength and a voice to be his advocate. I never thought I could or would stand up in ways I have had to and I am sure in ways I have yet to experience.
5. Through his purity and honesty, I have found the ability to see more good in others.
6. I have learned to not compete or compare. We all have our own path, no two are alike and we will all get there in our own time.
7. I have learned to set limits. Not only for him, but for me as well.
8. With Marky, everything can be celebrated. I have learned to celebrate the little things. It makes for smiles and a full heart.
9. I have learned to give myself a break. There is a lot of emotional stress and it is ok to take a break.
10. I have learned compassion, and boy do we need more of that. Marky sees everyone the same way , there are no differences.
11. I can easily say I am sorry. It is ok to be wrong and there is no shame in that. I also can forgive others more easily.
12. I have learned simplicity.
13. Marky is content with life, regardless of the circumstances. This continues to help me see more joy.
14. I am more accepting of who people are.
15. Struggles make me stronger.
16. I have learned not to take things for granted .
17. I embrace what makes him unique. It may be dancing in Target or starting to take pants down before the rest room.. all of these things no longer create stress for me. He needs me, I am here for him and that is that!
Every day Marky reminds me that anything is possible , we all have to try our best and his smile and joy will continue to be “my why”.