Dearest Max,
Just a toddler, not yet 4, I grieved for the life I had planned for you. A life full of friends, sports, academic achievements and all the other normalcies your future would presumably have brought. Though only briefly, I allowed myself selfish assumptions; that life with a son with Autism would be an uphill struggle. In retrospect, there have been lots of hills on this rollercoaster and I wouldn’t trade any of them. You have already changed the world for the better, whether you realize it or not.
Because of you, I smile wider and hug harder. Because of you, I am more patient and empathetic with other Autism moms. Because of you, I get to belly laugh multiple times a day; you are the funniest little dude I know. Because of you, I am a better listener. Because of you, I pay closer attention to details and appreciate each one. Because of you, I have become a chicken nugget connoisseur. Because of you, I realized that tags in my clothes truly are bothersome and I feel better once they’re remove. Because of you, I can enjoy the blatant honesty of the unfiltered mind. Because of you, I live life at the ready, as I never know what’s coming next. Because of you, I have a vast knowledge of pharmaceuticals. Because of you, I know all of the tank engines from Thomas and at least 500 Pokemon characters. Because of you, I save money on computer technicians. Because of you, I have learned to become very resourceful in a bind. Because of you, I have gotten connected with others in our community seeking advice or just a sounding board. Because of you, I have learned that homework does indeed go smoother when you wear just one sock. Because of you, I have realized that strong negotiations really do get the desired effect. Because of you, hundreds of classmates will grow into understanding adults. Because of you, your sister has grown into a compassionate and inclusive young lady. Because of you, I see the world from more than just one perspective. Because of you, I have come to know that trophies don’t equate to accomplishments; progress is in celebrating each milestone along the way.
Thank you for being the remarkable, quirky, brilliant guy I love to the moon and back. Keep spreading your magic and changing the world.
Your Biggest Fan,
Mommy
Kate Hall is a mom in Richmond and I am honored to share her thoughts with you here.