While Winter break can be a great time for many, and I do look forward to the lack of schedule, many with special needs do not enjoy the change.
I’ve created a list of some ideas to get through the holiday break. Not only are holidays mixed into 2 weeks off, but other factors like travel, guests and new activities are added to our lives.
These can all be tough to adjust to, so here are some ideas:
- Remember it is ok to remove your child from a situation. If a gathering is too noisy or too crowded, have an exit plan or ask for a room you can sit in that is quieter. (There are times I want to do this when m child may not need to! )
- Allow for down time/ down days. Try to have some unscheduled time during the break, where no unfamiliar guests are around and you do not have to go anywhere. It is ok to say no.
- It is ok to ask for help and let others know what you need.
- Have familiar items of your child’s with you if you are traveling. A blanket, toy, stuffed animal. Things that will bring comfort. My son wears his headphones everywhere. (I wish I could too! )
- Create a calendar or visual story of what is happening during the break. It can help to create some calm with the ability to know what is happening each day.
- Bring foods / drinks that work for your child. Don’t add the additional stress of trying to figure out what your child will eat. (I am known to walk into any party with spaghetti and homemade chicken soup broth! )
- Create your own traditions. If you want pajama day 3 days in a row or pancakes on New Year’s Eve- do it! (I hardly ever make it to midnight on NYE)
Remember, your child will pick up on stress levels, especially yours, so try not to add more than you can handle. Keep the focus on your family and not everyone else and know that you are not alone! So many of us are juggling this and trying our hardest to make it ok for our families.