So often, I write about what my day is like and share stories by moms who write in and we all relate.
Today, I thought, in honor of Father’s Day, I would highlight some of the secrets I see for the dads. Both strengths and vulnerabilities.
I am sure I am missing some, so please feel free to add to the list in the comments.
1. Special Need dads are scared too.
They may not appear to be on the outside, maybe they don’t cry as openly as we do, but they have the same fears and worries for their child.
2. Special Need dads are protectors.
They will do anything and all for their child, even when they don’t know how!
3. Special Need dads get lonely.
Dads sometimes feel they don’t fit in, kind of like we do. They feel excluded from the things “typical” dads do.
4. Special Needs dads celebrate small victories.
When a special needs dad sees their child reach a milestone, or achieve a new goal- the pride is enormous! And, they WANT to talk about it!
5. Special Need dads have to juggle too.
For many, they are the breadwinners and cannot make all the doctor appointments, meetings etc . They do want to be there and have to give it up in order to keep income and benefits coming.
6. Special Needs dads are the quiet and fierce protectors.
So many dads are quietly working behind the scenes to protect and support their families. They go unnoticed many times and that is ok for many of them. They do what they do, they learn as the process evolves and they are ready for the next challenge. They are the silent partners many times, but, the silence is strong!
These are just a few things I wanted to share in honor of Father’s Day. Dads, you may not have started out to be selfless on this parenting mission, but with our kids that require so much more, you have become just that. Selfless, fierce, compassionate, appreciative and with such a new perspective.
Be proud of all you are and all you do. We are.