Every Mother’s Day I anticipate the day with such joy and wishes for what I hope the day will be. Many times, I end up feeling a little sadness and some loss. Never really able to completely define it. I think it is for the things I wish and want FOR my son to be able to do. The little things my girls “just know”.
On Mother’s Day, there are so many of us with kids that do it a bit differently, the kids that won’t know to make a card or draw a picture,that will wake up wanting their electronic device and breakfast. Like most other Holiday’s there is not anything “special” about the day. We don’t get angry with our kids, we know they are not doing any of this to make us sad. That is not possible for these kids. They are so pure in what they know. As a special needs mom, we do what we do because we are moms, because we love their smiles and yearn for their comfort.
So, I thought about what I would want. I thought about what a wish would be if I could get and give one. I would love to give every incredible mom a letter from their child.
This letter is for the Special Needs Mom, whose child is unable to write or say the words we may long to hear.
Dear Mom, Mommy, Momma …
You always know what I need. You are always there for me . You do so much without a complaint. You are so selfless.
Whether I am sad, tired, cranky or afraid, you are there, with a smile, a kiss and arms to hold me and keep me safe.
You hardly ever ask for help and you find the energy to get everything done. We all know that there is rarely time for you.
Sometimes I know you don’t even know how to do what you need to do, but, you do it anyway.
I know you did not plan for this, I know you were not “trained” for this and I know it is not easy.
But Mom, you do it and you smile while you do it. You focus on all I am able to do, you make me feel so capable and you celebrate me for what I am. You are my biggest supporter.
I see you sometimes when you don’t know I am looking and I think you are beautiful. You may not always feel it, especially on the days a shower may not fit into your day, but you are. Your smile makes me smile. You manage to do all you do for me plus all other things you accomplish in a day.
You may not realize it, but you are a magician. You know what I need without words, you juggle so much and hardly drop a ball. You appear out of nowhere whenever you are needed.
Although I may not have the words, it does not mean I am not celebrating you.
I celebrate you every day, when I wake up in the morning, your voice is my comfort.
When I go to sleep at night, your hug keeps me safe .
Happy Mother’s Day Mom and thank you for your love, laughter and endless support.
You are amazing.
________ This is where you fill in your child’s name, because this is you, and you, and you.
Oh, and it is me too!
Happy Mother’s Day to all of us who have learned more than we knew possible through our children that are “KnowDifferent”